Re: [家人]好好一個家卻因為一位乾女兒將要破散
前文恕刪
最實際問題,經濟能力
你們家的經濟來源是誰,父親還是母親?
文章中看來是母親
如果是母親的話,我認為可以不用理你爸
賣檳榔到處都可以賣,不一定非要跟你爸生活在一起
經濟要靠自己,還要承認父親帶來的精神壓力
太痛苦了~離婚吧!
如果是父親
請你母親看在錢的份上,睜一隻眼,閉一隻眼
我知道這也很痛苦
但是最起碼沒有經濟壓力
一個38歲的婦女,要出去找一份可以養家的工作(弟妹還在念書)
非常難,除非他有一技之長
我覺得你的父親已經完全聽不進去旁人的話
乾女兒跟他關係非常詭異
現在只要你們說跟乾女兒任何事情,不管好壞,他會生氣
正向作法:和父親聊聊,為何和乾女兒投緣
和乾女兒在一起做什麼事?
記得聊天過程中,要肯定乾女兒
說你不了解她,才會有一些誤解
請你父親多說一些她的事
想要了解父親和她,一定要讓你父親覺得你是認同他的
所謂正向的意思,積極處理
你想要很深入了解兩人關係
一定是從父親口中得知
如果你的態度是『你是錯的!』『乾女兒和你的關係很詭異』這類的
你認為父親還會繼續跟原PO談話嗎?當然不會!
就像:你會跟一個鄙視買名牌包的人,討論你的拜金心得嗎? 當然不會!
有意義的對話,必須讓對方願意說
讓對方願意說的前提是:讓對方覺得你認同他
負向作法:直接不理他,讓他自己承擔後果
建議和母親聊聊天
作為她情感上的支柱
不一定要談論父親和乾女兒
說說你的生活或弟妹生活的趣事
一直處於很負面的情境
我想任何一個人都會受不了
至於父親部份
我這位旁觀者很想說
不要理他!
不要和他起正面衝突
尤其你越為母親說話
他更厭惡母親
認為母親挑撥你和父親的感情
這樣對母親是不利的
畢竟每天和父親生活是她,不是你!
而你是遠水,就不了進火
加油!
你和母親都辛苦了!
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