[心情] 父母離異,最大傷害的就是小孩
http://dreamyeh.pixnet.net/blog/post/41593249
最近看到FB上寫著,父母離異,影響最大的就是小孩,我在這邊必須補充說,無全沒錯!
我就是從小父母協議離婚的小孩,這跟我認識就了就會知道,這沒啥好隱瞞的,事實就是如此。
那小孩的反應是什麼呢?我只記得我國中時候,父母幾乎可以用每天吵架、甚至互相摔東西形容,那時候得我,真正認識到,原來這就是大人的世界。
幼小的我。能想什麼呢?沒錯,就是逃避,我哥就會帶著我,跑到二公里外的的7-11,共同買一杯大杯飲料,兩兄弟就這樣輪流喝著,聊些別的話題,就是不聊大人的事情。
小孩眼裡,能懂得就是這麼多,我們不會明白男女之間的感情,不會明白誰誰誰有多混漲,不會明明誰嗆誰根本是白目。婚姻不就是這樣?當雙方被愛情沖昏頭時候,誰會去管兩方個性相處?誰會去理會之後發展呢?
可惜,受害的永遠就是孩子。
對於還沒結婚的人,我希望你們能在婚前,先好好看清楚對方真面目,多加思考再做任何決定。對於天下已經結婚的父母,我誠摯希望拜託你們能好好做好婚姻協調、溝通討論,千萬別到最後一刻才宣布分道揚鑣,這樣,傷害的只有孩子而已。
對於我們小孩來說,又是怎樣呢?傷害已經造成,其實我們也不想抱怨太多。我們要的只有一個,活下去。於是我們努力下來,更加努力奮鬥。
我們只想做一件夢想:「希望在我們身上發生的悲劇,不要在我們小孩子身上重演。」 就這麼簡單。
其實。我還是很感謝這一切安排,就是因為如此,我和我哥被迫更早成熟,更早面對現實世界,更早知道人與人之間的醜惡和善良。
這個世界,很美,但總有些不美之處。而每個人活著就是要學習接納那些不哪美之處
小孩子要學的,被迫學的,就是要想辦法讓在這種父母離異情況下,活下去
但身為父母,是否要考慮學的是更多相處之道、溝通的辦法呢
因為離異,傷害最大、也無法避免傷害的就是孩子,我們除了被迫長大,沒有其他可學處
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